What's scorching your groove today?

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

When you tell something personal about yourself (as embarrassing as it may be) to try to lend to the topic at hand, and someone ignores you and makes you feel like a fucking asshole for having anything to say about it.

me, too.

mostly, though, I just get ignored. Maybe b/c I'm too frivolous for these deep thinkers here 'bouts with all their incredibly intricate arguments that go exactly nowhere.

there have been people here in the cellar who have influenced me, though.

first one would be Dana; Clodfobble, Tony, Pat, wolf (first second amendment loving republican pagan I've ever met), and MaggieL who taught me that no matter WHAT sex you are or perceive yourself to be you CAN be a gigantic asshole. Cat Woman taught me that English women can be horrid bitches and Cherry taught me that English women can be warm, wonderful and compassionate as well as hilarious. Monster was the first ex-Brit living here that I ever knew (that I know of) and Pam was just simply....sublime.

[glatt]

this ignoring thing is ridiculous.

This is a forum, not a room with people talking. It's not like you are standing there talking to someone's face, and they just walk away. There's a time delay here. If you post something, there is no guarantee that it will be read right away. Even if it is read away, it may stand on its own merits and not need any sort of acknowledgement. Perhaps a post needs to be mulled over a little bit before it's responded to. Perhaps the person who read it only had a minute to check the Cellar and then had to go off and do something in real life. And speaking personally, there is no obligation for me to respond to every post that I read. There are hundreds of posts a day by all the dwellars, and I only write a handful myself. I'm not ignoring the ones that I don't respond to, but I don't have the time or energy to respond to everything. If something is directed to me personally, I'm probably going to respond to it, but I might not, because I might see the point being made as standing on its own. I don't see a need to say "yeah, good point."

I know (pretty sure, anyway) this ignoring claim isn't being directed at me specifically, but I think that other dwellars probably have perspectives that are similar to my own.

If someone shares a deeply personal story, I can understand a feeling of insecurity or of putting oneself out there and a desire to be responded to immediately, but that's just not how the Cellar is structured. There is a time delay. It's not a room with people talking face to face.

Based on all the responses I see you two getting, I wouldn't say either one of you is ignored. Some individual posts are not responded to, sure, but that happens to absolutely every dweller. Many posts by most people are not responded to.