What is a friend? - Page 3

sexobon · 12-14-2012, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

... My point is, you can be perfectly happy and still want to avoid people. Poor Dazza married me, so hes shit outta luck in that department, but one day he might kill me off and go live on some deserted beach.

"Life's a beach; then, you marry one." Apparently, Dazza's found a way to reverse the process!

Aliantha · 12-14-2012, 06:04 PM

It's not like I'm against living at the beach. We actually only live a couple of hundred metres away from the coastline anyway. It's just that if he killed me off, he'd get insurance money to pay off the house and stuff. Then he'd be all set.

Of course, the opposite is true too and in fact, I'd have more than enough to live pretty comfortably for the rest of my life if I invest wisely blah blah...if Dazza should happen to...fall off a boat or something...

Big Sarge · 12-14-2012, 11:51 PM

Thanks to everyone for the kind words. I've got some other stuff going on and I am letting it get to me. Sometimes, I feel like I'm drowning. I was at the VA today and I believe the only way I can be happy is to deploy again.

LB - I hear you girl. I feel like a kindred soul

xoxoxoBruce · 12-15-2012, 01:13 PM

I had friends, but most of them died... which scared the rest away.

orthodoc · 12-15-2012, 02:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Big Sarge

Thanks to everyone for the kind words. I've got some other stuff going on and I am letting it get to me. Sometimes, I feel like I'm drowning. I was at the VA today and I believe the only way I can be happy is to deploy again.

LB - I hear you girl. I feel like a kindred soul

Sarge ... you have friends here, please don't ever doubt that. I'm sorry you're having to deal with a lot right now. Don't be too hard on yourself.

BigV · 12-15-2012, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

I had friends, but most of them died... which scared the rest away.

listen. I'm not scared of you, your dead friends, or your jokes. ok, most of your jokes.

Lola Bunny · 12-16-2012, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

I had friends, but most of them died... which scared the rest away.

I'll be your friend. I have a very long life line, so I'll stick around.

squirell nutkin · 12-22-2012, 07:13 PM

So yeah, a friend of mine, whom you all know, has thrown in the towel in his marriage. He's now running down the clock until things are settled. In the interim he's set up an eHarmony account. I'm not sure what advice to give him and was wondering if you all think this is premature. He seems to think it gives him hope that there is a future with an SO who would be fun and nice and like to have sex more than once a year and who doesn't get angry all the fucking time about nothing. And who doesn't nag or criticize.

Maybe he is living in a fantasy world.

Chocolatl · 12-22-2012, 09:09 PM

eHarmony told me I had no matches.

Having never been in your *friend's* shoes, I have no advice other than to take it easy. Many people I know have gotten in to crazy rebound relationships because they got so caught up in that butterfly feeling that hadn't been in their lives in so long.

Lola Bunny · 12-22-2012, 09:54 PM

A woman who doesn't nag or criticize? Now that's a fantasy.

ZenGum · 12-22-2012, 10:48 PM

www.mutechicks.com

For this friend, I suggest a holiday romance. Some loving would do him good, but without the longer term emotional investment. Can he find some suitable woman in a suitably distant city, who is looking for same?

ETA I'm disappointed to learn that isn't a real website.

Lola Bunny · 12-23-2012, 08:51 AM

Here, lookie!

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/10-m...164400962.html

There are other sites you could try. My ex signed up for match.com after we broke up. A woman contacted him right away, they clicked, and got married within a year. Success story for match.com.

Good luck to your friend, Squirrel.

Shawnee123 · 12-23-2012, 09:04 AM

Oh squirrel, my advice to your friend is: way too soon. This is just my opinion. A friend of mine met a good woman not long after his, and her, divorce and they've been happily married for years. No dating site...i have no opinion on that...but i think they were very lucky that it worked.

There is no hurry. I think people need time by themselves. That's my take, and your friend's mileage may vary.

What do i know? I don't expect i will ever get married again.

Find happiness i guess is all i know. It doesn't always come from an SO...but it helps it along for sure.

But, let the body cool down, maybe?

Shawnee123 · 12-23-2012, 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Lola Bunny

A woman who doesn't nag or criticize? Now that's a fantasy.

I criticize myself all the time. However, perhaps i should have nagged for some respect, in my relationships. Not being a nag scores no long-term points...but i attracted guys who liked to take advantage of that about me.

Lola Bunny · 12-23-2012, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

I criticize myself all the time.

Woman, that's one thing you need to do less of.

12-14-2012, 06:04 PM	#32
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	It's not like I'm against living at the beach. We actually only live a couple of hundred metres away from the coastline anyway. It's just that if he killed me off, he'd get insurance money to pay off the house and stuff. Then he'd be all set. Of course, the opposite is true too and in fact, I'd have more than enough to live pretty comfortably for the rest of my life if I invest wisely blah blah...if Dazza should happen to...fall off a boat or something... __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-14-2012, 11:51 PM	#33
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Thanks to everyone for the kind words. I've got some other stuff going on and I am letting it get to me. Sometimes, I feel like I'm drowning. I was at the VA today and I believe the only way I can be happy is to deploy again. LB - I hear you girl. I feel like a kindred soul __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

12-15-2012, 01:13 PM	#34
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I had friends, but most of them died... which scared the rest away. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

12-22-2012, 07:13 PM	#38
squirell nutkin has a second hand user title Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: in a Nut House Posts: 2,017	So yeah, a friend of mine, whom you all know, has thrown in the towel in his marriage. He's now running down the clock until things are settled. In the interim he's set up an eHarmony account. I'm not sure what advice to give him and was wondering if you all think this is premature. He seems to think it gives him hope that there is a future with an SO who would be fun and nice and like to have sex more than once a year and who doesn't get angry all the fucking time about nothing. And who doesn't nag or criticize. Maybe he is living in a fantasy world. __________________ And now I'm finished posting.

12-22-2012, 10:48 PM	#41
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	www.mutechicks.com For this friend, I suggest a holiday romance. Some loving would do him good, but without the longer term emotional investment. Can he find some suitable woman in a suitably distant city, who is looking for same? ETA I'm disappointed to learn that isn't a real website. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

12-22-2012, 09:09 PM	#39
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	eHarmony told me I had no matches. Having never been in your friend's shoes, I have no advice other than to take it easy. Many people I know have gotten in to crazy rebound relationships because they got so caught up in that butterfly feeling that hadn't been in their lives in so long.

12-22-2012, 09:54 PM	#40
Lola Bunny Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,728	A woman who doesn't nag or criticize? Now that's a fantasy.

12-23-2012, 08:51 AM	#42
Lola Bunny Junior Master Dwellar Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,728	Here, lookie! http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/10-m...164400962.html There are other sites you could try. My ex signed up for match.com after we broke up. A woman contacted him right away, they clicked, and got married within a year. Success story for match.com. Good luck to your friend, Squirrel.

12-23-2012, 09:04 AM	#43
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Oh squirrel, my advice to your friend is: way too soon. This is just my opinion. A friend of mine met a good woman not long after his, and her, divorce and they've been happily married for years. No dating site...i have no opinion on that...but i think they were very lucky that it worked. There is no hurry. I think people need time by themselves. That's my take, and your friend's mileage may vary. What do i know? I don't expect i will ever get married again. Find happiness i guess is all i know. It doesn't always come from an SO...but it helps it along for sure. But, let the body cool down, maybe? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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