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[orthodoc]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

I tell them I love them all the time. I am pretty sure they believe me. what else can you really do?

Why was your Father's love not enough, ortho? Because you think he'd rather have had a boy? I have both, and there are aspects of each I prefer.

If you tell your kids you love them, that's huge. My parents talked a lot about all the conditions under which they would disown us but never explicitly said they loved us. Now they do, but the message was very different early on. My mother just says whatever she thinks will get her what she wants. If she feels secure, she becomes abusive; if she wants something from us, she loves us.

It was no secret in our family that my father wanted a son 'to carry on the family name'. It bothers him to this day (at 80) that there's no one to 'carry on the line'. He had 3 daughters and then he and my mother adopted a boy. They were upfront about the fact that our new little brother was to be the proud carrier of our surname, and teased my older sister that 'the crown prince outranks the crown princess'.

Yes, that is f**ked up.