MA Court says parents can reasonably spank kids

[DanaC]

Fair point.

I have mixed feelings about this sort of thing. I am totally against smacking children (over here 'spanking' refers solely to the kind of over the knee type thing - a slap on the leg would be called smacking rather than spanking). I think it's entirely counterproductive - and can (emphasis on can) cause psychological damage - at the very least I think it's a dangerous lesson for children to learn: that to be in authority (however loving) or power over another person - particularly a smaller person - gives rights of violence.

That said - for most kids, I suspect that an occasional smack during their lives won't warp them as long as they are confident in their parent's love and the smack doesn't actually hurt all that much (I don't think children should ever be made to truly fear their parents - and if i had kids I'd hate to think they associated me in any way with the inflicting of pain). Certainly, I think that for most families where there is some minor physical chastisement, the damage caused by state or judicial intervention would most likely be far more serious and longlasting.

[Lamplighter]

Originally Posted by DanaC

Fair point. I have mixed feelings about this sort of thing. ...

I too have mixed feelings, but in being "old, old, old school"
I'm probably less concerned about doing "permanent damage" than Dana.
So when it comes to "pain", my balance point has to do with where is the more serious pain.

For example, if the child has just run out into the street without paying attention to cars,
the lesson to be learned is that cars can hurt more... a lot more.
Likewise rushing up to a dog and grabbing it's tongue,
or hitting the playmate on the head with a toy, or etc., etc., etc...
In situations such as these, some actual pain serves to get their attention.

OTOH, misdeeds such as saying a "naughty word" is in a whole different category.

[xoxoxoBruce]

The fact remains there are parents that shouldn't be allowed to be within a mile of any child. Trying to legislate/judicate common sense with a one rule fits all, is bullshit. That tact has fucked up to many things already.