Tiki Bitches About... - Page 10

DanaC · 04-10-2009, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by classicman

I wonder if she would still consider you a friend after the fucking crap you posted here about her.

That is all.

Not fair. We all of us clash from time to time with friends, especially, if they are housemates. There must be a place to vent without hurting them. Why the fuck shouldn't Tiki talk about her here? It doesn't reflect badly on their friendship at all. When I lived with my mum after J and I split, she drove me to distraction. I am a very solitary person and I don't do chit chat unless I am 'socialising'. When it got too much I would rant about her to my best friend. I was being unfair about her in some ways, but not in others. I was likely as frustrating to be around, if not more so. My spouting annoyance about Ma didnt mean I'd changed how I felt about her. It's just offloading.

Tiki: clearly the only way for you to deal with this is, as you said, find a more concrete way of marking out your silent space. A room with a lockable door seems a bloody good idea. Might I also suggest that when she shouts something from another room, you just ignore it. If it truly is important, she'll surely come find you in the office. If it's just more random stuff she's not so likely to make a journey to say it ( I assume?).

[eta} went back and edited this staright after posting. Part of it had been rendered obsolete. I hadn't read the last 2 pages and was unaware that peace had broken out.

sugarpop · 04-10-2009, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiki

No, she's just naturally chatty in the mornings. Used to drive her boyfriend nuts too.

I think I'm really ill-suited to live with people, because I like to be left alone almost all the time. I don't at all mind being written at, but being talked at is like nails on a chalkboard.

Maybe I need to keep a spray bottle on my desk, and as soon as she starts talking I'll squirt her.

I do that to my cats sometimes.

My ex talks like that when he's high. When we were first going out, we went to Florida to visit his mom. I had to ask him to please be quiet for a few minutes, that I just needed some silence. He shut up until I told him he could talk again, which was about 5 minutes. Once in a while I still have to tell him he's talking too much. He's a pretty good sport about it though.

04-10-2009, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Nirvana

Newsflash! Not every comment on this thread is for or directed at you

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Originally Posted by zippyt

But Vana , Its ALL About the TIKI !!!

Well, it is a thread entitled "Tiki Bitches About..."

04-10-2009, 05:02 PM

Thanks, Dana! I appreciate that. At some point I will be able to finish the upstairs room, in the meantime I have to figure out how to make it more clear that this space is my WORK space and I need to not be disturbed when I'm in here. Because just telling her isn't working...

DanaC · 04-10-2009, 05:05 PM

This kind of thing can so easily escalate lol. All it takes is handful people to be a little less patient that they normally are, or to reach more readily for offence and we quickly start drawing lines in the sand.

DanaC · 04-10-2009, 05:15 PM

Given that I am apparently mistaken about peace breaking out, I am going to repost the paragraph I deleted:

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This whole thing has got woefully personal. I hold my hand up to my part in that, but really...what a ridiculous argument to be having. The whole point of this thread was Tiki wanting to blow off steam about something that was bugging her. It's supposed to be a release not a way of burdening one self with a bunch more aggravation. Now we have insults flying left and right, and everyone is getting agitated. Including me. I don't like agitated.

Please, please, can we all just think about the fucking children just for once?

zippyt · 04-10-2009, 05:16 PM

When I was in the Marines , liveing in a squad bay , think 40 or so guys , every now and then the noise would get to much , i had some flight line head phones , i'd put those on and just ZONE out ,
or if I REALLy got sick of Humanity I would just go away for the week end , it was 10 miles to the beach over the Hills , easy walk , I would just go hide from the MPs that were patrolling for intruders,
the solitude was Verry refreashing ,
exept one morning i was awoken by a Full Marine Amphibious Landing !!! Im talking Ships off shore , helos over head , amphibious landing crafts motering tward the beach , i just grabbed my stuff and faded into the back ground .

oh did I mention this was a Military training area ??

Nirvana · 04-10-2009, 06:11 PM

FOR ZIPPYT:
I hope you had on the right uniform! LOL

lumberjim · 04-10-2009, 07:55 PM

this thread= that scene in White Men Can't Jump where Rosie tells Woodie that she is thirsty, and then breaks his balls for getting her a glass of water.

04-10-2009, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

Please, please, can we all just think about the fucking children just for once?

this is why sex ed needs to be taught in our schools.

capnhowdy · 04-10-2009, 11:48 PM

Or teach em all to be whiny bitches. Then their odds of having sex at all are fairly narrowed.

classicman · 04-11-2009, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Tiki

... was talking to CM.

Don't bother. I've read enough of your anti-social, selfish shit. Save yourself a few keystrokes. I'm not reading your dribble anymore anyway.

lumberjim · 04-11-2009, 11:45 AM

drivel

Shawnee123 · 04-11-2009, 11:48 AM

Salivation?

lumberjim · 04-11-2009, 11:53 AM

dribble: salivation

drivel: words to be disdained

04-10-2009, 05:16 PM	#142
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	When I was in the Marines , liveing in a squad bay , think 40 or so guys , every now and then the noise would get to much , i had some flight line head phones , i'd put those on and just ZONE out , or if I REALLy got sick of Humanity I would just go away for the week end , it was 10 miles to the beach over the Hills , easy walk , I would just go hide from the MPs that were patrolling for intruders, the solitude was Verry refreashing , exept one morning i was awoken by a Full Marine Amphibious Landing !!! Im talking Ships off shore , helos over head , amphibious landing crafts motering tward the beach , i just grabbed my stuff and faded into the back ground . oh did I mention this was a Military training area ?? __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

04-10-2009, 06:11 PM	#143
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	FOR ZIPPYT: I hope you had on the right uniform! LOL __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

04-10-2009, 07:55 PM	#144
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	this thread= that scene in White Men Can't Jump where Rosie tells Woodie that she is thirsty, and then breaks his balls for getting her a glass of water. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

04-10-2009, 11:48 PM	#146
capnhowdy Blatantly Homosapien Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 6,200	Or teach em all to be whiny bitches. Then their odds of having sex at all are fairly narrowed. __________________ Please type slowly. I can't read very fast............... and no holy water, please.

04-11-2009, 11:45 AM	#148
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	drivel __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

04-10-2009, 05:02 PM	#139
Tiki Guest Posts: n/a	Thanks, Dana! I appreciate that. At some point I will be able to finish the upstairs room, in the meantime I have to figure out how to make it more clear that this space is my WORK space and I need to not be disturbed when I'm in here. Because just telling her isn't working...

04-10-2009, 05:05 PM	#140
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	This kind of thing can so easily escalate lol. All it takes is handful people to be a little less patient that they normally are, or to reach more readily for offence and we quickly start drawing lines in the sand.

04-11-2009, 11:48 AM	#149
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Salivation? __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

04-11-2009, 11:53 AM	#150
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	dribble: salivation drivel: words to be disdained __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

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