Regrets - Page 2

classicman · 02-20-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by TheMercenary

There is a lot to be said about that classic. Do you reset with a renewed anger in your heart that all of this is the fault of all men/women you ever encounter again, there by ensuring you will never have a meaninful relationship again? Or can you focus on your individual problems and keep it real knowing that you are directly or indirectly responsible for much of your own predicament?

Seriously - I chose the latter after much kicking and screaming. At first most things were someone else's fault. After more reflection, and alot of Crow a la carte.... Smiles come, and happiness can be followed by true joy. And there is a huge difference to me.

Sundae · 02-20-2009, 04:23 PM

No Crow au Vin?
(... a crow that has been run iver by a van...)
thanks Blackadder for that one

Glad to hear it's possible, Classic.
75% of me just says, "never again" and accepts it.
The other 25% comes out in my dreams and wakes up longing.

TheMercenary · 02-20-2009, 05:38 PM

I loved Blackadder! Another of my addictions to Brit TV.

You can do it SG. Listen to what people post on here. There are people her who reek of the inability to get over personal failings and project them on to anyone they dislike. Life is much to short for that shit.

Shawnee123 · 02-20-2009, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

No Crow au Vin?
(... a crow that has been run iver by a van...)
thanks Blackadder for that one

Glad to hear it's possible, Classic.
75% of me just says, "never again" and accepts it.
The other 25% comes out in my dreams and wakes up longing.

That 25 percent will get you every time.

It's out there, if it isn't for you it isn't for any of us.

Aliantha · 02-20-2009, 06:09 PM

SG, I seriously never thought I'd ever find someone to love after almost 6 years of being single, but it took me that long to really honestly get myself anywhere near where I needed to be to let love come into my life again. Then I met Dazza when I wasn't even looking for love and he's helped me scrape off the last of the shit and slime from the past to the point where I can really feel that sense of complete happiness with him, even when he's annoying the shit out of me (if that makes any sense).

I just think that when you start to think you might want to bring love into your life, you're probably almost there, particularly if you're logical about your thought processes at the same time.

Bruce, thanks for the OP. I thought it was beautiful in a sad way. I guess we all sometimes have things that we just never realized until it was just too late. I think it's part of the human condition.

footfootfoot · 02-20-2009, 07:35 PM

No regrets, no hard feelings, it’s over
All the good times together are though
I’ll have a lifetime of memories to keep me going
I wouldn’t take back one moment spent with you

I can’t say that your leaving won’t hurt me
But it’s nothin’ that time can’t erase
And someday this hurtin’ will be over
Another Story, Another Time, Another Place

Then one day I’ll be sittin’ with another
And suddenly a smile will cross my face
If she asks me what’s so funny, then I’ll tell her
Another Story, Another Time, Another Place

So, no regrets, no hard feelings, it’s over
Yes it hurts me because I lost out in the race
But someday this hurtin’s going to leave me
Another Story, Another Time, Another Place

Then one day I’ll be sittin’ with another
And suddenly a smile will cross my face
If she asks me what’s so funny, then I’ll tell her
Another Story, Another Time, Another Place

classicman · 02-21-2009, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Glad to hear it's possible, Classic.
75% of me just says, "never again" and accepts it.
The other 25% comes out in my dreams and wakes up longing.

That 25% may be the addiction talking - trying to lull you back into its dark grasp. Saying things like "You're not worthy...You'll never succeed... I'm you're only friend... Just one drink... Rinse repeat lose years of your life. JMO.

Break the cycle! Kick it in the cunt and live!

DanaC · 02-21-2009, 04:49 AM

That was so sad!

*smiles* I'm not sure I really do regrets as such. There are things that didn't go as I would have hoped. I can get quite misty eyed thinking back to younger days, and the closeness I felt to my man then. I can't imagine ever feeling that kind of closeness again...but that's ok. It was a young thing. It was almost a sublimation of the self.

I know I'll never feel that kind of intensity, because I am not prepared to lose myself in someone. That loss tastes sweet at the time, but there is a cost. An affordable cost when the years weigh light, less so when you get older.

[eta] thinking about it, I don't ever want to love someone so much that I would die or kill for them. I have only ever loved that way once. Thankfully, when that love lost its glamour, there was a solid friendship left. Solid enough that I would probably still die or kill for him; for different reasons.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-21-2009, 12:55 PM

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I can't imagine ever feeling that kind of closeness again...but that's ok. It was a young thing. It was almost a sublimation of the self.

You were stoned.

DanaC · 02-21-2009, 05:01 PM

What, for 12 years?....oh, wait a minute..yeah.

dar512 · 02-23-2009, 02:50 PM

♪ I did it myyyyyy wayyyyyyyyy ♫

Sorry. The "regrets" title touched it off.

I'm feeling better now.

Sundae · 02-23-2009, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by classicman

That 25% may be the addiction talking - trying to lull you back into its dark grasp. Saying things like "You're not worthy...You'll never succeed... I'm you're only friend... Just one drink... Rinse repeat lose years of your life. JMO.

Break the cycle! Kick it in the cunt and live!

To be fair to myself, I have not been in a proper relationship for 10 years now because I haven;t felt that the time was right. Oh and because no-one fancies me..
Are we talking about being in an adult and consenting situation, or did you think this was a metaphor for drinking?

If it's drink, I understand completely.
If it's love I think you might be being a bit harsh...
It kinda assumes I will be alone for the rest of my life.
Something I often assume myself, but which sounds a bit mean coming from someone else.

limey · 02-23-2009, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by dar512

♪ I did it myyyyyy wayyyyyyyyy ♫

Sorry. The "regrets" title touched it off.

I'm feeling better now.

Have you hear the Gypsy Kings' version of that? That's what I want played at my funeral ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7T1VQ5X-y-I (sound quality not great but the best of three online versions I've just reviewed ...) (and how do you do that video embed thingie?)

jinx · 02-23-2009, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by limey

Have you hear the Gypsy Kings' version of that? That's what I want played at my funeral ...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7T1VQ5X-y-I (sound quality not great but the best of three online versions I've just reviewed ...) (and how do you do that video embed thingie?)

Put the part in red between [youtube] tags.

classicman · 02-23-2009, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

this was a metaphor for drinking?

If it's drink, I understand completely.
If it's love I think you might be being a bit harsh...
It kinda assumes I will be alone for the rest of my life.
Something I often assume myself, but which sounds a bit mean coming from someone else.

I thought it was a metaphor...

02-20-2009, 04:23 PM	#17
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	No Crow au Vin? (... a crow that has been run iver by a van...) thanks Blackadder for that one Glad to hear it's possible, Classic. 75% of me just says, "never again" and accepts it. The other 25% comes out in my dreams and wakes up longing. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-20-2009, 05:38 PM	#18
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	I loved Blackadder! Another of my addictions to Brit TV. You can do it SG. Listen to what people post on here. There are people her who reek of the inability to get over personal failings and project them on to anyone they dislike. Life is much to short for that shit. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

02-20-2009, 06:09 PM	#20
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	SG, I seriously never thought I'd ever find someone to love after almost 6 years of being single, but it took me that long to really honestly get myself anywhere near where I needed to be to let love come into my life again. Then I met Dazza when I wasn't even looking for love and he's helped me scrape off the last of the shit and slime from the past to the point where I can really feel that sense of complete happiness with him, even when he's annoying the shit out of me (if that makes any sense). I just think that when you start to think you might want to bring love into your life, you're probably almost there, particularly if you're logical about your thought processes at the same time. Bruce, thanks for the OP. I thought it was beautiful in a sad way. I guess we all sometimes have things that we just never realized until it was just too late. I think it's part of the human condition. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-20-2009, 07:35 PM	#21
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	No regrets, no hard feelings, it’s over All the good times together are though I’ll have a lifetime of memories to keep me going I wouldn’t take back one moment spent with you I can’t say that your leaving won’t hurt me But it’s nothin’ that time can’t erase And someday this hurtin’ will be over Another Story, Another Time, Another Place Then one day I’ll be sittin’ with another And suddenly a smile will cross my face If she asks me what’s so funny, then I’ll tell her Another Story, Another Time, Another Place So, no regrets, no hard feelings, it’s over Yes it hurts me because I lost out in the race But someday this hurtin’s going to leave me Another Story, Another Time, Another Place Then one day I’ll be sittin’ with another And suddenly a smile will cross my face If she asks me what’s so funny, then I’ll tell her Another Story, Another Time, Another Place __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-23-2009, 02:50 PM	#26
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	♪ I did it myyyyyy wayyyyyyyyy ♫ Sorry. The "regrets" title touched it off. I'm feeling better now. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

02-21-2009, 04:49 AM	#23
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	That was so sad! smiles I'm not sure I really do regrets as such. There are things that didn't go as I would have hoped. I can get quite misty eyed thinking back to younger days, and the closeness I felt to my man then. I can't imagine ever feeling that kind of closeness again...but that's ok. It was a young thing. It was almost a sublimation of the self. I know I'll never feel that kind of intensity, because I am not prepared to lose myself in someone. That loss tastes sweet at the time, but there is a cost. An affordable cost when the years weigh light, less so when you get older. [eta] thinking about it, I don't ever want to love someone so much that I would die or kill for them. I have only ever loved that way once. Thankfully, when that love lost its glamour, there was a solid friendship left. Solid enough that I would probably still die or kill for him; for different reasons.

02-21-2009, 05:01 PM	#25
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	What, for 12 years?....oh, wait a minute..yeah.

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