Conversation Starters

[piercehawkeye45]

Well yesterday my friend and I were at a party and got two girls to come to my friend's apartment and everything was going well. But, when we go there, we realized we didn't have that much similar interests and conversation halted and they ended leaving which was really lame.

So since most of you are passed the stage I am at where I am looking for girls almost every night and haven't had the experience to have a massive storage of conversation starters, lets share the love. What are some of your guys best and favorite conversation starters and I guess anything that is related to this?

[lumberjim]

[english accent] Do you drive?.......(yes) can you give us a lift back to me castle? [/english accent]

or

hey....wanna get a pizza and screw?....what, you don't like pizza?

but seriously....

if you got nuthin to talk about.....you cant fake it. just talk about what you would talk about with your friends. if you're into d&d....you should try to talk about that.....maybe you'll run into someone with the same interest....maybe not...but at least you'll not be wasting your time trying to impress a girl. remember that they are just as scared and boring as you are. you could even talk about what kinds of things you should talk about. kind of a seinfeldian approach.

[Clodfobble]

Come on, man, it's college. Standard line: "What's your major?" Followed closely by, "Interesting--what do you think you'd like to do with that?"

[Perry Winkle]

Treat it like improv. I've become pretty popular in my department and residence hall by doing that.

Never turn down an invitation, and never let an opening pass. It's better to go too far than not far enough. If you cross a line, you're at least remarkable. If you stay strictly in bounds all the time, you're a sucker.

[ZenGum]

My job involves making lots of small talk. I've got a bit formulaic, but it works for the environment. Mind you it isn't designed to get me laid so you might need to modify it.

1. What is your job/major/hobby/pet/sexuality/etc? (Short answer)
2. Do you like that? (short answer)
3. Why do you like it? (long answer)

The trick is listening and understanding the response to ask questions that lead somewhere.

Other standbys:
What kind of music/TV shows/movies/sports do you like (add Q. 3, above)
Which are better: dogs or cats?
Your last vacation.

[lumberjim]

or.....Do you like Monkeys?

or....Do you like....ummm...stuff? then look at your feet and scuff them around a little.


or.....look her right in the eye and say...."I wanna be ON you."

[Undertoad]

In order to get a really hot chick interested in you, you have to be a douchebag!

[piercehawkeye45]

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Come on, man, it's college. Standard line: "What's your major?" Followed closely by, "Interesting--what do you think you'd like to do with that?"

Haha, those are usually my last resort when it comes to talking with people. I would rather start with something other than just that and maybe stand out a bit.

Do you like....ummm...stuff? then look at your feet and scuff them around a little

I think I'm going to try this one, haha.

[Bullitt]

Poking fun at em, being a little bit of a smart-ass usually works well for me.

[lumberjim]

ask if they want to wrestle. if they say yes, immediately go for the standing cradle....and then the figure 4 leg lock.

[SteveDallas]

Originally Posted by Undertoad

In order to get a really hot chick interested in you, you have to be a douchebag!

You forgot climbing the ladder.
I have no advice. I've always sucked at this. But I'm curious, what was the reason for them coming back to your apartment? (Besides that I mean the STATED reason...) "You want to come back to my apartment and . . . " "have a drink?" "watch a video?" "play twister?" etc.?

[Sundae]

Try to get onto the subject of humour. If you get a women back to your apartment she has at least a passing interest in you anyway. And once you're past the hurdle of complete disinterest, women generally fall for men who make them laugh.

I can't bear smalltalk myself, but if a man asks what comedy I enjoy and can talk about it himself, or even can build on that and make a few relevant jokes then I will get warm and fuzzy. Same re books and poetry, but that's specific to me.

Honestly, find out what a woman is really interested in. ASK her - you might think it's lame but women love to express their opinions to a man who is really listening. Head on one side for sincerity, SMILE, and ask her relevant questions to prove you are listening. If you're not gettign anywhere with random questions ask, "So what are you really into? What really makes you light up inside?" And then compliment her on how she looks when she is talking passionately. It's a killer line.

BTW I agree long term your best bet is to talk about what you like if you are looking for a life partner. But simply to stop girls leaving... it's all about her.

"Guess what I've got in my butt?"

[monster]

Find something for all y'all to do with your hands () -like (preparing and) eating nibbles or a silly game like pass the pigs or triv. It gives somewhere else to look other than into the eyes without being rude (which can make initiations of small talk easier), but doesn't take so much attention that you can't chat too. Also, for all it's bad press, something like Triv can in itself provide conversation starters. Monopoly's a good one too. Cards can get a little too intense. Or invest in some kids games -Mousetrap, snakes and ladders. They make look at you funny at first, but they'll probably join in rather than leave and it'll break the ice. Use your local thrift store to get these cheaply.

[lumberjim]

yabbut...in college...chutes and ladders ALWAYS turns into 'strip' chutes and ladders. next thing you know it's just another full blown orgie. ho hum. we men are looking for good conversation, not an endless stream of gratuitous sex with a bunch of empty headed bimbos. christ.