Regrets

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Life doesn't have to be a soap opera.

I often find that people who say truisms like this about something as commonplace as unfulfilled love have been fortunate enough to lead lives that are very free of hardship. Being in love with someone unavailable is hardly soap-opera material... it's just a fact of life that many people experience. That in my case it's a person I happen to be perfectly compatible with is just a source of regret, not a source of drama. I'm 37, and I have kids to raise and work to do... I don't have time to waste on idealization, but at the same time, I know what I feel and why I'm feeling it.

I am a low-drama person. Even my divorce, and my ensuing emotional breakdown, was pretty low-drama. I hope that someday I will fall in love with someone else, and that they'll be as good a match for me as my friend, but that doesn't stop me from wishing things were different right now.

[Sundae]

Originally Posted by Tiki

I often find that people who say truisms like this about something as commonplace as unfulfilled love have been fortunate enough to lead lives that are very free of hardship.

To be fair to Ali, she's been through the mill herself. It's all here on one thread or another (although history by the time she started posting) but she was single with two sons when she met her husband. She also had some family issues before this.

Not saying you should have known this, just updating you on one of the people you might be referring to (although I accept your post is a generalisation).