I'm about to become a morsel in the banquet of love!

[DanaC]

Even if there is love and friendship. If there is not also emotional reliability, then it's a dangerous attraction.

As Stormie* so rightly pointed out: he showed who he was when he walked out without warning or explanation, stranding you in financial straits and completely disrupting his daughter's life into the bargain. I wonder if he warned her mother?

Unfortunately, the person whose eyes crinkle when he smiles at you, and who so solicitously made you happy for the years you were together is also the real him.

This is a lethal combination.

The reason he is so convincing and able to get through your defences, may be because he really feels it. But there is absolutely no reason to think, and every reason not to, that he will feel that way in six weeks, six months, or six years time. And the way he feels when he walks out on you again ('cause it will happen) will be just as real as the way he feels when he declares his undying love.

Might as well set your store with the wind as trust this man with anything more than 'hello'.

Again, I am sorry if this seems harsh. But you are worth sooo much more than this. And it is encumbent upon us as your mates to make that absolutely clear.

(*Hi Stormie! have you been gone, or have I just missed your posts 'cause I feel like I haven't seen you in ages!)