About at my journey's end

[Clodfobble]

Sorry to hear it's gotten this bad, foot. Dana and monster are asking the right questions though. I would also add, does her mom live in town now?

It would be cheaper, and better for the kids (divorce stress aside, they're still going to have to deal with their mom being bitchy even if you successfully extricate yourself from it) if you could enforce a buffer period. Like maybe tack on an all-day spa treatment after every visit, before she's allowed to come home. Lay it out right, and it could be "for her" and not for you.

[monster]

Originally Posted by monster

How long does it usually last for after she gets back?

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

successfully extricate yourself from it) if you could enforce a buffer period. Like maybe tack on an all-day spa treatment after every visit, before she's allowed to come home. Lay it out right, and it could be "for her" and not for you.

Yes, this is where I was headed, although I was thinking a day out for you and the sprogs while she "settles in" back home. Clod's solution is craftier, but is just "being away" a factor as well as mom? Some people are stressed by being away from home and when they get back home and start to feel in familiar surroundings, that's when they relax enough to let the stress go -sometimes not to good effect. Perhaps if you are just out of the fall-out zone when this happens? Maybe a compromise -a spa day at home?

[Stormieweather]

Is she aware that this is a 'dealbreaker'? Have any solutions been discussed or thrown out there?