Well, This is Going to be a Lousy Situation

[BigV]

Originally Posted by Elspode

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I promise to be here more soon. As I said, I've missed you all, and I have no good excuse for why I've been nothing more than a lurker for so very long.

Good. I'm counting on it.

Originally Posted by Elspode

Thanks for the good vibes. Please keep them coming, and try to spare some for Selene as well. She has to be going through some pretty fucked up shit in her head/life to have resorted to this.

You're welcome. You have my good vibes as does Selene.

Ya'll--an aside--it's my experience that good vibes for the ex are a gift to both, especially to Elspode in this case. I felt the same way when I was in a similar situation. He's in adrift in an ocean of shit for the moment, throwing in some free floating focused hate doesn't improve that situation, especially since he's asked for the opposite.

I believe this:

Originally Posted by Els

She has to be going through some pretty fucked up shit in her head/life to have resorted to this.

produces this:

Originally Posted by xoB

This wasn't a wrong choice driven by a panicky fight or flight situation. This was a carefully crafted, fuck-you-long-time, kick in the nuts, by an evil, self-centered, cunt. An act so vile, even she can't watch it unfold.

I agree with you xoB, I do. But I also know that Elspode chose her, built a life with her to this point and did so not because she was Susanna bin Laden, but because she was in Elspode's eyes a good person. I support Elspode because he's my friend and I'll do what I can for him. For me, that includes holding my hatred in abeyance.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by BigV

I agree with you xoB, I do. But I also know that Elspode chose her, built a life with her to this point and did so not because she was Susanna bin Laden, but because she was in Elspode's eyes a good person. I support Elspode because he's my friend and I'll do what I can for him. For me, that includes holding my hatred in abeyance.

My diatribe has nothing to do with 'Spode, it was at Donna Bin Laden.
Everyone who's been around here for some time knows Elspode makes Ghandi look like an SS Stormtrooper. (No Godwin) They both were aware the marriage was petering out, so the divorce was not a surprise. He was also aware she could be ruthless to those that deserved it.

But the way she blindsided him, making the exit as smooth as possible for herself, leaving him debts, a fucked credit rating, and virtually no chance to recover any equity from the house, is lower than whale shit.

I know he will forgive her, that's our 'Spode.
But I'll be God Damned if I will... no way, no how, not ever.

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

My diatribe has nothing to do with 'Spode, it was at Donna Bin Laden.
Everyone who's been around here for some time knows Elspode makes Ghandi look like an SS Stormtrooper. (No Godwin) They both were aware the marriage was petering out, so the divorce was not a surprise. He was also aware she could be ruthless to those that deserved it.

But the way she blindsided him, making the exit as smooth as possible for herself, leaving him debts, a fucked credit rating, and virtually no chance to recover any equity from the house, is lower than whale shit.

I know he will forgive her, that's our 'Spode.
But I'll be God Damned if I will... no way, no how, not ever.

Bruce, this is all true. And you're right...I've already forgiven her. She's aching from this. It doesn't score her any points with me, but yeah, she's fucked in the head over all of this. As well she should be.

[xoxoxoBruce]

I still love ya, remind me to give you a reach around next time I'm out that way.

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

I still love ya, remind me to give you a reach around next time I'm out that way.

I have your picture stenciled on my underwear.