Please just let me vent

[monster]

The therapist in training didn't come today. Shame. One more in-home visit and I will be done!

Today I am teary and miserable for no apparent reason. Well apart from shitty non-profit-board politics but I don't normally let that get me down.....

[Pete Zicato]

Some thoughts based on my experience after major surgery and prolonged recovery:

• You are not responsible for making other people feel better about your health. People hope you are making steady improvement, but there is no way you can guarantee this. I finally landed on the following: "I have good days and bad days." If I felt good that day I followed it with "Today's a good day". If not it was "Today's not so good".
  
• You have had a major setback. You will get depressed, if you're not already. If you're like me you're thinking, "Is this what it's going to be like for the rest of my life?" You need at least a few people that you can be honest with about what you're going through.
  
• On the other hand, the only people who can really understand are those who have been through what you're experiencing. Find a support group - online or irl. People in a support group will understand what you are going through and may be able to help with coping ideas. Reddit has a stroke group at http://www.reddit.com/r/stroke. I'm sure there are others out there.

[monster]

Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

Some thoughts based on my experience after major surgery and prolonged recovery:

• You are not responsible for making other people feel better about your health. People hope you are making steady improvement, but there is no way you can guarantee this. I finally landed on the following: "I have good days and bad days." If I felt good that day I followed it with "Today's a good day". If not it was "Today's not so good".
  
• You have had a major setback. You will get depressed, if you're not already. If you're like me you're thinking, "Is this what it's going to be like for the rest of my life?" You need at least a few people that you can be honest with about what you're going through.
  
• On the other hand, the only people who can really understand are those who have been through what you're experiencing. Find a support group - online or irl. People in a support group will understand what you are going through and may be able to help with coping ideas. Reddit has a stroke group at http://www.reddit.com/r/stroke. I'm sure there are others out there.

You're a good man,thanks. I have found these all to be true. Re the last one...........

Today the poor treasurer who volunteered to pick me up and take me to school tody so I could run the scrip store and so she could help me decipher my handwriting (from pre-stroke) so i could catch up on the paperwork I would have caught up on over the break.... and who is a breast cancer survivor got the deluge on thw way to school.

She gets it so much more than others who are closer, but lucky so far.

Tody I definitely wheeled out the good and bad days thing and "today has not been the best, but I'll get there...." seems tobe a good one for them and me. I sill get there, but right now it's still shit.

[Trilby]

Originally Posted by monster

Today I am teary and miserable for no apparent reason.

you have every reason to be teary and miserable. Just feel it. It will go.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Finding yourself "teary and miserable for no apparent reason", is like finding a stain on your blouse. It sucks, but it's temporary. Look at it as a legitimate excuse to pamper yourself today.

[orthodoc]

Originally Posted by monster

Today I am teary and miserable for no apparent reason.

You have a right. Your feelings are valid. I hope they will ease soon, but in the meantime don't feel you 'should' be feeling something else.